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“He always comes back.”

I’ve heard this line many times from women after a break-up, taking pride in the fact that the ex who left them contacted them again or even asked to get back together. They feel flattered thinking that their ex couldn’t get over them and there must be something special about the relationship that it wouldn’t just end.

Admittedly, I was one of those women.

When an ex broke up with me, I would reassure myself that they would come around again. When they did, even if it was just a missed call at a thirsty hour, I took it as a compliment. I felt like I was winning because they were thinking about me and missed me. My dumpee ego was soothed. …

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